Friendship
May 20, 2009 Jen
So this morning I watched the final episode of Sex & the City. I think it’s the third time I’ve watched the whole series. This is what struck me though – it was the most perfect ending to a series. All the loose ends were tied up and everyone got what they wanted in the end – Carrie got Mr Big, Charlotte got her baby, Samantha got her mojo back and you see a complete turnover for Miranda in her relationship with Steve. At the end of the episode you see the four of them walking together down a street in NY, and their closeness is palpable.
So this is my question – do friendships like this, like the one between Carrie, Miranda, Samantha & Charlotte, really exist? At the moment, my list of friends who still currently reside in SA is painfully short. I can count them on one hand plus two more fingers on my other hand.
Recently, a six-year friendship of mine came to an end. There was a fight, & now there are unresolved issues & unsaid things. But in my mind, it is truly over. No big bang, no tearful farewell… just over, as if all the years of laughing, crying, talking and being in each other’s lives never happened at all. How is it possible to care so much about a person one day, & the next they have left your life, just like that?
I have always thought of myself as a good friend. I’m there when a crisis hits, I share my wine, and when I think it will benefit them, I interfere in their lives (in a good way). What I have discovered is that being a good friend doesn’t guarantee you having good friends. Finding decent friends is almost as much of a minefield as the dating world is, except that moving on when a friendship fails is more devastating than when a guy you’ve been dating suddenly disappears. You invest more in your friendships because you assume (wrongly, I’ve discovered) that your friendships will last longer, will survive your second, third, possibly your tenth boyfriend.
From now on I’ll be a lot more discerning about those I call friends. Perhaps I should have a checklist?
Entry Filed under: Uncategorized and tagged: dating, friends, Sex and the City
1. EE&hellip | May 20, 2009 at 6:51 pm
There is no
greater blessing
than an
understanding
friend,
who’s there in
times of trouble
and on whom we can depend.
A friend who knows our every mood
And brightens cloudy days,
One who’s slow to criticize
But quick to offer praise.
There is no greater blessing
Than a friend who always cares,
One who will remember us
In daily thoughts and prayers.
Thank you for being a friend (like above)to me.
2. Barbra Novac&hellip | May 25, 2009 at 10:47 pm
It is tough to know if you shoudl hold on to a friend or let them go. Sometimes it seems very destructive, but then you realise you may have just been going through something. I miss a friend I used to have but at the same time, I think we’re better off without each other. its a tough one.
thanks for the post
Barbra
http://intelligentwomenreadromance.wordpress.com/
3. Celeste&hellip | June 23, 2009 at 7:02 pm
I love that photo of you and me!! And just for the record to those reading the post….its not me she is talking about!!!